Magic path current challenge: meeting with friends as if for the first time

Imagine that every person you meet, you see for the first time. Throw out any critical judgments and look at the people you know with an unbiased look. Do they really deserve the way you treat them? Maybe it's time to break up with someone, or, on the contrary, to establish closer relationship with others. "Identifying is the chief obstacle to self-remembering. A man who identifies with anything is unable to remember himself. In order to remember oneself it is necessary first of all not to identify. But in order to learn not to identify man must first of all not be identified with himself, must not call himself 'I' always and on all occasions. He must remember that there are two in him, that there is himself, that is 'I' in him, and there is another with whom he must struggle and whom he must conquer if he wishes at any time to attain anything. So long as a man identifies or can be identified, he is the slave of everything that can happen to him. Freedom is first of all freedom from identification. "After general forms of identification attention must be given to a particular form of identifying, namely identifying with people, which takes the form of 'considering' them. "There are several different kinds of 'considering.' "On the most prevalent occasions a man is identified with what others think about him, how they treat him, what attitude they show towards him. He always thinks that people do not value him enough, are not sufficiently polite and courteous. All this torments him, makes him think and suspect and lose an immense amount of energy on guesswork, on suppositions, develops in him a distrustful and hostile attitude towards people. How somebody looked at him, what somebody thought of him, what somebody said of him—all this acquires for him an immense significance. P.Ouspensky "In Search of the Miraculous" Type: losing self-importance Difficulty: low